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Six ways to know you are not yet successful

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You can only step onto the ladder of success if you find that certain words don’t find their way into your conversations. File

I am all about positive thinking and this week, you are going to take time to sanitise your environment. Spring clean your personal and professional circles to ensure you only leave successful people within your inner circle.

Now, because success is as unique as your thumbprint, don’t bother gauging people’s success levels by whether they speak English with a tinge of an American or Luo accent, or the quality of their clothes.

The Indian, Japanese or German machines they pull up in won’t give you the right indication of their success quotient either. Work with a sure and more subtle measure – their conversation.

The right definition of a successful person is one who has raised his or her level of awareness so high that they can acquire anything without violating the rights of others.

If you hear these words in anyone’s conversation, know that they aren’t successful yet. They may hold high positions, dress and speak well, drive a fancy car, live in even fancier homes waited on hand and foot by a battery of servants but alas, they are not yet fully liberated for their real, lasting and sustained success to manifest on the physical plane.

That means that however successful they already seem, they haven’t even began to scratch their potential.

1.Try. This is a word that tells you the user is not committed to whatever follows the word no matter how sincere he or she sounds. You are either going to or not. If you are going to try to do something, something is equally going to “try” to happen.

2. Impossible. Know you are in deep trouble when someone around you uses this word. And for your sake, I pray they are not addressing you or speaking in reference to any endeavour you are vested in because with impossible as a foundational thought, nothing is going to happen. You are guaranteed a can’t-do, won’t-do attitude no matter what you try to do with such a person.

3. The problem is... Oh! This is the opening statement of a staunch believer in the law of negativity. Recognise the creed from the onset of his or her contribution.
These are the people who focus so much on natural obstacles without the benefit of awareness of their immense inner power. Any obstacle is immediately internalised as a problem and by the time they vocalise it, they believe it so deeply that there’s nothing you can do to help them see the polar opposite of it is the opportunity. Drown this one out of your space, head first.

4. But. This is the classic excuse launch-word. You know it. The minute you hear it, know that you are going to learn of who didn’t do what and the many details that had to be taken into account.... and blabber on until kingdom come.

5.I know. Trust me, if they knew, they would simply get it done, not tell that they know when the plain evidence is that they lack the knowledge, willingness, ability or interest in doing it.

How many times have you hired someone with impressive knowledge only for them to underwhelming deliver?

The widest gap in life exists between knowing and doing because knowledge does not necessarily translate into action. No one knows anything until they have done it. If they are still talking about their knowledge, however vast, move on quickly from them.

6. I cannot. This is normally repeated twice or thrice, arms a little raised and head moving from left to right for great effect and with such conviction that you cannot argue with the speaker’s inability. We are all created perfect. We all have infinite abilities.

This is why as humans, we are superior and lord over all other creatures. When one of us renders themselves unable, do not argue. Understand that such a person has rescinded their abilities and chosen the victim’s path of self-proclaimed inability.

Next time he calls or comes around, you really cannot answer your phone. You cannot open the door, either! Can or cannot are choices.

Purpose to make the conscious choice to enjoy a positive growth and success-filled environment.

Ms Ruligirwa-Kamara is an attitude and human potential expert Email: [email protected]