A kid walked into a candy store with his dad and was bedazzled by the array of treats on offer.
“What should I choose? What should I choose? What should I choose? he asked himself.
“Come on son, we don’t have all day,” his dad said.
“These are my favourites. No wait, these are my favourites.”
He walked along the aisles, picking up bags and putting them back. He just couldn’t make up his mind.
“Quick son, make up your mind, we have to go,” his impatient dad said. Frantically, the boy ran around the store, his eyes moving from one shelf to another, but all of the options looked so good and he couldn’t make a decision. Eventually, the dad had enough, grabbed his son by the hand and they walked out of the store empty-handed. The boy had tears in his eyes. He wanted them all, but ended up with nothing because he couldn’t choose just one.
We’re all that boy. The world is that candy store. We have thousands of choices available to us, but if we don’t make a decision, we end up empty-handed. Sometimes we worry about making the wrong choice. What if we regret the direction that we take and it’s too late to go back? The bigger danger is that we make no decision at all and end up going nowhere and doing nothing.
Decisions are the hardest thing to make especially when it is a choice between where you should be and where you want to be. Above are some things to consider when you need to make tough decisions.
I heard someone say this very interesting thing about decision making, “When faced with two choices, simply toss a coin. It works not because it settles the question for you, but in that brief moment when the coin is in the air, you suddenly know what you are hoping for.” Doesn’t that make it the easiest way for making decisions especially if you are the one who is always not sure of which choice to make.
1. Don’t make a permanent decision based on your temporary emotion: Never make a decision when you are deep in some emotion, be it anger, fear or even extreme joy. Thoughts affect emotions, emotions affect decisions and decisions affect life. So, do not allow the unstable power to narrow down your vision.
2. Decisions determine Destiny: Life and destiny are not a result of the circumstances that we are in; our life is rather a result of our decisions; so, it is important to weigh our choices before making decisions.
3. Never be afraid to make a decision: You may lose something good, but you may gain something better, or even better, bad decisions give good learning and great stories.
4. Making a decision takes a moment, living a decision takes a life time: Once you make a decision, do not keep looking back, just look ahead and see how to make it work.
Bharatam is the founder and chief mentor of Kuza Biashara, a capacity building organisation. He can be reached @Sbharatam or [email protected]