It’s become quite dicey to ask certain questions in this day and age. Like, “is that a woman or a man?” It’s enough to get you lynched. Or thrown in a deep dark well. Apparently it’s intolerant, bigoted. Because the definition of a woman or a man keeps morphing.
Gender, it turns out, is a social construct. So, if you aren’t sure of someone’s gender - and you have no ambition to spend a night in a dark well, it seems safer to just keep your question to yourself.